Do We Need To Change Our Views On Rape?
The subject of sexual assault is a dubious one, as the media encourages the nation and the world that there is one perpetrator, a man and his victim(s), the multiple women and/or children. Choosing to stifle the truth that the offender of sexual harassment is not just limited to gender or sexual orientation and nor is the victim. Even by published standards, paedophilia has no gender bias, not just with sexual orientation and preference, but countless reports have broken out of the woodwork in recent years, containing information on paedophilic behavior in adult women, broadening the conceptions to be almost equal with their adult and adolescent male counterparts.
An exceptional example is Vanessa George, a former nursery worker residing in Plymouth. She and two others, Angela Allen and Colin Blanchard as revealed in 2009, were corresponding over social media as they deliberately went out of their way to sexually exploit and diminish young children, established by On Health as forms of voyeurism and exhibitionism, which can include pornography, clothed or unclothed and non-physical interaction. George was emphasized exclusively due to her welcoming nature and treatment of nursery children, whom she had been working with for ten years prior to evidence of a contradictive stance being discovered in her personal and work computers by a colleague, and later her husband was pleading with her to come forward with her abuse, for the safety of their two children. On Health demonstrated further that ten percent of child abuse is sexual.
A similar case escalated late last year with the former singer of Lostprophets, Ian Watkins, as if echoing George’s favoritism for corrupted internet use, he collaborated with two female paedophiles, both with their own children and one who was just an infant, whom was victimized. In the short trial, starting in mid-November 2013, it covered that like Vanessa George, his involvement in paedophilic acts expanded over a decade; including one night stands with adolescent girls just turned the age of consent, dressing up as school girls as a form of roleplay.
Preceding these revelations, was a YouTube video of Watkins and the other members of Lostprophets answering questions from fans on Twitter, one being about what their favourite types of women are. The username of the questioner was ironically babygirl, and Watkins’ response looking back was shocking, and could’ve been investigated into sooner if one of the concerned member’s astonished responses was acknowledged. Watkins was quoted, after scoffing: “You’ve just said it”
Though landing on separate ends of the spectrum, there is a common denominator: rape and paedophlia are forms of sexual assault. Both are featured on the official statistics of rape, both have been majorly reported in national and international news, and subsequently are higher in number in comparison to the reports of female rapists and late adolescent and adult male victims. Validating this, is that it is not only children who suffer from the conspiracy of silence, an act instigated by the perpetrator, it can also affect said adolescent or adult victims, if frightened by the consequences
Rape Crisis, at the beginning of last year disclosed that approximately 85,000 women are subjected to rape in England and Wales every year while over 400,000 women experience sexual assault every year and 1-5 women between the ages of 16 and 59 have witnessed or been involved in sexual violence. UN Women reveal that 1 in 3 women and girls experience sexual violence in their lifetime. Women’s Aid in a recent television advertisement starring actress Keira Knightly, warned that two women are killed in their own homes every week as a result of domestic violence and this is the public information.
To find out more, people can read the full report found on The Ministry of Justice. On page 19 of An Overview of Sexual Offending in England and Wales, it was established in a pie chart that 5,778 children are exposed to forced sexual activity, 2,273 men are victims of sexual assault and 1,274 men have reported to have been raped. Research located in the United States, with a company named Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) concluded that three women and one man are murdered by their intimate partners every day.
Further illustrating the corruption is the resurfaced issue of “corrective rape”, where in the African continent; female homosexuals are being targeted. The theory is that when confronted and forcibly taken by one or more heterosexual men, the women would be cured of being physically and sexually attracted to their own sex, when it fact it has the opposite effect, it traumatizes them, like all forms of rape. Unfortunately, this form of correction is growing in numbers, as lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transsexual (LGBT) freedoms are spreading internationally and selective areas of the continent are given rights, inclusively South Africa, and prior to this The Guardian reported a collection of stories about victims of war, male and female within it was a demonstrative focus of a refugee worker in Congo, listening to a former prisoner of war’s story of a three year capture, where every day he was subjected to sexual assault and watched as other victims around him perished from the repetitive abuse.
Why is this information so important?
Contrary to society’s myth, which an American clothing company back in November 2013 played on with a range of “anti-rape” underwear specifically for women, and not acknowledging children, adolescents or adult male victims – it is not the attire of a rape victim that causes the uncontrollable response, in fact, the attire rarely has any involvement, and neither does the body language of said victim. As children do not have the conscious understanding of sexual interaction and adolescent or adult women and men give subconscious and conscious signs that they wish to instigate such an interaction, allowing a consensual partnership. Rape is absent of all accounts.
It is assumed that it is solely an act for power, but never has it been investigated as to what instigates that need to force superiority over the rapists’ victims, and why, and this is the purpose for the article. I want to be the one that investigates, and one of the biggest niches I have is, as to whether society’s attitude towards sexual education, the unconscious condoning of violent behavior, and the lack of understanding in psychological and behavioral issues and genetics have anything to do with it? Especially when the justice system discriminately treats both men and women differently, affecting the time spent in prison. It is automatically assumed, that unless the male accused confesses to insanity, he is fully responsible of the actions he commits, which in the case of rape, may be unlikely. While the female is automatically pardoned with a behavioural or psychological issue and it is only debated later if she is truly responsible.
Sexual education is introduced to a child’s life very early, as young as the age of seven and transgresses into child development where teenagers are taught about not just the process of sex, the contraceptive options but the consequences and life choices after. Not long ago last year, it was addressed in an online petition proposing the prime minister force the educational system’s hand in broadening its horizons when approaching sexual education, updating the basic information to take into account modern culture, like the porn industry, and LGBT issues as the petition’s creator was of my generation, where the porn industry has a firm standing point in sexual influences and the LGBT was transitioning into independence by the late eighties and early nineties and were comfortably expressing themselves by the end of our time in middle school, and with the next generation following us into learning about sex, needed it to be introduced without religious or ignorant suppression that these aspects of our society and culture has now been liberated. Despite the porn industry’s extremities, it could be used as a referencing point and would allow preadolescents to not feel uncomfortable discussing it, and lesbian, homosexual, bi-sexual and transsexual discussions would allow sexual and gender identity to be seen as a natural part of whom a person is, and not an abomination.
From an outsider’s point of view, it could lead to healthy communications between the parent and child over the subject of sex; understanding the behavior, the act and body language, and exploring the culture of sex, putting aside the mindsets of generational influences, especially as the child draws closer to puberty. It could also allow the school to see a little clearer into the familial background, discover the attitudes one or both parents have towards not just sex, but also social and gender values of people. For instance, the father may have a misogynistic opinion of women, stereotyping women as a certain role and may cause psychical confrontations with his current partner or wife, mother of that child, as her actions may go against his opinions of her, or it may be the opposite – the mother may treat her partner or husband appallingly, from a family background of suppressed family members, she wanting complete control.
In an episode of Law and Order: Special Victims Unit, it was expressed by the character Detective Olivia Benson, portrayed by actress Mariska Hargitay, that the violent act of rape can be inherited, commonly passed down on from the paternal side of the family, not dissimilar to the inheritance of sociopathic behavior – incorrectly referred as psychopathy in the film and television industry – which ironically affects men more than women. The same subject was featured again in an episode of Nip/Tuck, where the character of Christian Troy discovered he was, like Detective Benson, an offspring of sexual assault. However, as Troy was a male offspring, and had been accused of committing facial mutilations on female and sparse male victims, self-harming himself and forging a sexual assault claim on himself (when in fact he had been raped, and was a victim of other physical attacks), his mother instinctively believed he was capable of harming others, because of who his father was, which Benson had deduced with her own half-brother, the son of her mother’s rapist, as the brother had been accused of raping multiple women.
This extends to my proposal that subconsciously the educational system through government ruling – this not limited to the United Kingdom, but can be spoken for the United States, Europe and other international countries – are ignoring genuine signs of potential behavior development in the child that is evident in the home, and without the government and the educational system’s involvement very early on, there can be no inquiries into the family’s history, as there may be medical, or psychological records expressing concerns in the parent(s) past, or repetitive patterns, which concludes that the NHS, US and UN health care deserve notification.
Domestic violence is a key association with such exaggerated behavioural issues that could lead to any form of physical violence, inclusive of rape, as it has environmental influences, as a young child is impressionable and if not understanding the conflict, it may lead to the child wanting to try to hurt others, and mimic the distorted values of the parent or parents, taking on board the prejudiced opinions towards others they see as different – going back to corrective rape and reluctance to embrace LGBT issues in sexual education as an example. As that behavior develops, once hitting puberty and late adolescence, because it never got caught early enough, the adult could lash out sexually, and if confused by their sexual identity, they may not be picky in who their victims are. If intervened, it could venture to a healthy relationship with the social services, as there is valid evidence, where necessary examination and treatment can be provided to prevent occurrences from happening, because the child or adolescent has been distanced from the environment that can mold negatively on that child or adolescent, male or female.
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Do We Need To Change Our Views On Rape?
Written for Interact Magazine (Europe Team, 2013 – 2014)